FORGIVENESS

but, I Can’t!

For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. (Matt.6:14 NIV)

 

The issue of forgiveness is a major one in marriage.  I know as I write this that some of you readers have suffered greatly at the hands of your loved ones.  But the requirement to forgive carries no caveats, no exceptions; we must all forgive all transgressions against us.  What shall we do?

 

“I can’t!” we cry out in the pain of memory.  “I can’t!” as we see no relief in sight.  “I can’t!” resounds as our tormentor shows no remorse, asks no forgiveness.  When you cry out to the Lord, “I can’t” is that what you truly mean?  Or do you mean “I won’t?” 

 

As your loving Father, the Lord knows you can’t.   He tolerates “I can’t” because it is an expression of your true condition.  “Can’t” means you are weak and helpless.  He created you in this weak and helpless state.  His love and compassion are aroused as he views your state just as you are compassionate at the condition of your own weak and helpless children.

 

It is “I won’t” that he cannot abide.  “Won’t” makes Him helpless because He will not violate your will.  He will not step in without your permission.  Remember, He stands at the door and knocks.  If you won’t allow Him in He can offer you no comfort. 

 

If you are struggling the Lord is with you, but you have to make a decision. You must be willing, with God’s help, to forgive those who cause you pain.  He wants you to cry out to him.  He will walk with you through this process and you will emerge on the other side with benefits you could never imagine.  Decide to trust God with your hurts.  Give them to Him; He will heal and restore.

 

(Readers: Send your questions.  There will be more to follow on this subject.)